What to Look for in a Twleve Step Sponsor
For many people, finding the right sponsor is a difficult task. Oftentimes, people have no idea what qualities to look for in a sponsor. We have created a list for you that can help you through this process. Listed below are some characteristics that your Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous sponsor should have:
Your sponsor should have what you want.
When you are attending 12 step meetings, listen carefully to the speakers. Look for someone that is happy and at peace with themselves. A sponsor should have the things that you want in life. Make sure that are choosing a sponsor for their character, not the physical things that they have.
A sponsor should be in recovery for at least a year.
While there are no specific rules on how long a sponsor needs to be abstinent from alcohol or drugs, we suggest that you chose a sponsor who has been in active recovery for a minimum of a year.
A good sponsor has worked the 12 steps.
In order for your sponsor to help you, he/she needs to have completed ALL of the steps. A person can’t guide you through recovery if they have completed the program themselves.
Someone that is available to meet with on a regular basis.
You need a sponsor that is available to meet with you in person or talk to you on the phone when necessary. If a person is always busy, he/she may not be a good sponsor for you.
A sponsor should have a sponsor themselves.
Someone that has a sponsor themselves knows the ins and outs of the program. It is important that your sponsor doesn’t deviate from the steps and try and create their own program.
You need someone that you’re compatible with.
A good sponsor is someone that you can talk to openly without fear of judgment. Your sponsor doesn’t need to be just like you; they just need to be able to help you work through the steps.
Choose a temporary sponsor.
If you’re having trouble finding a sponsor, ask your support group for a list of temporary sponsors. Your temporary sponsor will help you work the steps until you can find the right sponsor.
Listen to your heart.
Most people know deep down in their hearts when they have found the right sponsor.
Whether you’re a member of A.A. or NA, finding a sponsor can be a frustrating process. If you’re having trouble getting a sponsor, ask members in your support group who would be a good fit for you. . A sponsor can provide you with support and hope while you’re navigating through the recovery process.