Hi Anon, I am sorry but I don’t think I will be able to help you here. Asking for professional help is a lot easier than stressing out about having to hide your addiction. It may not seem easier when time comes to admit we have a problem but it’s a path to a positive place- rather than freaking out about having our secret revealed.
Please get the help you need.
Our addictions cause way more stress than they are worth.
I am so sorry to hear about what you and your friend are going through. I am assuming you have confronted your friend with concern because you say that she doesn’t think she has a issue, which is always the first step in trying helping someone.
When someone doesn’t want to get the help or even admit they have a problem- it can be very hard to convince them otherwise. Sometimes we can come off as judgmental and it makes them even more defensive. I know it can feel frustrating, especially since she’s on the other side of the world!
Please try and continue to suggest getting professional help and treatment. Also, remind her that you care for her and that you’d rather ask about the troubling behaviors than let them go unnoticed. Then, offer to talk when she’s ready and be available if she wants your help. If your friend finally admits that she is struggling, offer to help her find a professional.
One of the most important things you can do as a friend is to let your friend know she is loved and accepted by you, even if she is suffering from an eating disorder, And it’s always best to speak up- because it might save your friend’s life.
Good luck with everything and congratulations on your own recovery!
Oh man, I am so sorry that you feel this way about yourself. Self-sabotage is such a common mindset when it comes to harming ourselves, physically and/or mentally. I was stuck there for a very long time. Let me tell you, finally loving myself has been the best journey I have ever encountered.
Giving advice to someone who does not want to help themselves is like trying to climb a 50 ft wall. We may make it half way up; yet, it’s near impossible to get over it. If someone doesn’t want to get better, not even the best therapist in the world will be able to change this. In recovery, we need to be ready to get better, we need to be ready to fight.
What I can do is encourage self-acceptance and self-love. What made you want to get better from you eating disorder? Can that apply here with the self-harming? You don’t deserve to feel sad and anxious all the time, wouldn’t it be better to feel happy and content with your life?
Try digging out the family album and look for a picture of yourself as a child. Paste that innocent picture of yourself onto your mirror. Look at it and then look at yourself now. Doesn’t that little kid deserve a good life? Deserve to be happy? Only YOU can make that happen. Give that darling little child the life they always wanted to have.
Here are some articles that might be useful for you, too:
Aw Love, I am so happy you are doing well now!
Sometimes it really does take us to hit rock-bottom to find ourselves again. I am just so grateful that you are ok. Please stay strong- and if you EVER EVER need to talk, know I am just a message away.
Thank you so much for this message!
You just made my whole day, so amazing
Hi Anon! Congrats on your recovery!!
I have a friend (ocdfree.tumblr.com) whose blog you will probably love. He hasn’t updated in a couple months; however, there are still some wonderful resources on there!
Also, I will make it my top priority to post more on OCD.
Congrats again- and thank you for all the compliments
Self-Harm is not only cutting oneself. The exact definition is:
The deliberate non-suicidal injuring of one’s body.
The most common form of self-harm is skin-cutting but self-harm also covers a wide range of behaviors including, but not limited to, burning, scratching, banging or hitting body parts, interfering with wound healing, hair-pulling (trichotillomania) and the ingestion of toxic substances or objects, and smoking.
You said your intention was not hurting yourself but wanting to refocus. There are many other ways to focus yourself and feel in the present without having to harm yourself. A simple Google search of learning how to refocus brings up hundreds of posts and resources!
Thank you so much!!
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Aw, I thought it was a legitimate question, especially, like I said, with the stigmas attached to certain mental health disorders.
Please try to not judge others!
I like to think of this blog as a safe-place.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry but this message made me really sad. There is such a stigma attached to these disorders that it actually makes people not want to get the help they need- which is so disappointing.
One thing that is so important is to be properly diagnosed. This severe depression that you are suffering with may be the cause of the other issues you are having. Once we heal our minds than we can begin to get healthy again.
Even if you did seek help for your eating disorder- NO they would NOT classify you as “crazy”. Residential treatment programs are NOT a mental hospital. No one is “mental” there- they are suffering just as you are. But going away to a rehab center is not the only option you would have. There are programs, such as Outpatient agencies, where one can go a few times a week for a couple hours. Also, having a nutritionist can be really important for implementing healthy eating habits.
Mental hospitals are designed for people with very severe disorders, like psychotic schizophrenia, have tried to physically hurt someone, attempted suicide, or had a traumatic life event. Self-harm is NOT classified with suicide, unless one is purposely trying to kill themselves. I also hate that there is also a stigma attached to psychiatric hospitals. It’s NOT at all like the movies portray them to be. It isn’t like straight jackets and confined padded rooms. It is just a bunch of nice people with some problems they had to work out.
But asking for help would not be admitting yourself into one of these places. You deserve the help, even if you can’t see it now- sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we can work ourselves up again. However, hitting rock-bottom is not something to strive for- if you think you need the help, getting a counselor or therapist, even just for once a week, can really help you work through the issues. Good luck, love.
Eating disorders are not only when someone starves themselves. Many people go on diets or overeat once in awhile. If you think that food is playing TOO big a part in your life, here are some questions to help you evaluate your behavior and pinpoint potential problems:
Look at your answers carefully- if you decide that your eating habits are making you sick or simply keeping you from enjoying life, it may be time to make some changes. Keep in mind, however, that the ways you use food can come from cultural heritage, psychological makeup, or years of habit. Take it slow! Changing habits is always difficult. Counselors, dietitians, nutritionists, and people with food problems that are similar to yours can give you additional emotional strength.
Please speak to a dietitian, nutritionist, or counselor in your community! In my experience, if we think we have a problem- we usually do. Here are some resources for more information:
First of all, congrats on your recovery from self-harm!
And going to Turkey sounds like so much fun!!!
What an amazing vacation!!
It’s good that you have started preparing now for August. I am going to be honest and tell you that I have never tried to get rid of my self-harm scars but I would like to in the near future (I have had them for 8 years, ugh.)
I have heard many good things about Bio-Oil! Also, I have also heard Mederma works really well, however, it can get quite expensive. My suggestion for you would be to look up testimonials from other people and how the product has worked for their scars.
Sorry if I was not much help. If Bio Oil does work well for you my lovely anon, please let me know!
You are scared of rehab but not the “meth mites” that are crawling all over you? Seriously think about that for a second. You let this HORRIBLE drug take over your life- and now it’s taking over your mind and future.
I think that once you find recovery, you will be grateful that your parents found your stash. They know this is a big problem for you— let them help you help yourself. Meth can do serious serious serious damage to your physical and mental health. You may even need to go through detox.
My friend, please save yourself before it’s too late. Getting high is so not worth your life- you are so much more than that.. Take out the family album, look at a picture of yourself as a child- doesn’t that little kid have hope? Don’t they deserve to grow up and live a happy life?
I know it can be your best friend and worst enemy all wrapped into one.. if you don’t end this friendship, it will only put you in jail or the ground. Please take the help.
I am not sure what you are in recovery from but I have found a great website that has worksheets about mental health, eating disorders, self harm, PTSD anxiety, and substance abuse:
Oh yeah, and you can check out my Recovery Challenge too. It’s very generalized so anyone in recovery can participate in it!
Good luck with everything!
Hopefully this is what you were looking for!
You can find the tutorial here: cocorini.tumblr.com!
Thank you so much for wanting to help me!!!!
Clicking it once per visit is just fine, I think that clicking it a bunch of times in a row might get me in trouble!
You are oh so wonderful!!
Thank you again, you have no idea how much I appreciate it!