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Uh hi can you please please help me?!!!!!?!?? I need a quick answer!!!!!!!!!!! I have to wear shorts tmrw and it shows the cuts on my knee!!! I need to cover them!!! ASAP!! I don't know what to do!!! How do I hide them!!????!??! What do I do?!!?!
Hi Anon, I am sorry but I don’t think I will be able to help you here. Asking for professional help is a lot easier than stressing out about having to hide your addiction. It may not seem easier when time comes to admit we have a problem but it’s a path to a positive place- rather than freaking out about having our secret revealed.
Please get the help you need.
Our addictions cause way more stress than they are worth.
I've struggled with an eating disorder in the past, and my friend has being showing symptoms of developing one herself. She doesn't think it's an issue, and doesn't want to tell any adults. I live on the opposite side of the world from her, and i feel like i can't do anything. I just don't know what to do. I don't want her to end up like me. Help?
I am so sorry to hear about what you and your friend are going through. I am assuming you have confronted your friend with concern because you say that she doesn’t think she has a issue, which is always the first step in trying helping someone.
When someone doesn’t want to get the help or even admit they have a problem- it can be very hard to convince them otherwise. Sometimes we can come off as judgmental and it makes them even more defensive. I know it can feel frustrating, especially since she’s on the other side of the world!
Please try and continue to suggest getting professional help and treatment. Also, remind her that you care for her and that you’d rather ask about the troubling behaviors than let them go unnoticed. Then, offer to talk when she’s ready and be available if she wants your help. If your friend finally admits that she is struggling, offer to help her find a professional.
One of the most important things you can do as a friend is to let your friend know she is loved and accepted by you, even if she is suffering from an eating disorder, And it’s always best to speak up- because it might save your friend’s life.
Good luck with everything and congratulations on your own recovery!
I've been in recovery for an eating disorder for over a year, and just recently started (albeit mildly) self harming, and my first instinct was to stop and get treatment but.. i really don't want to get better. I don't want to talk about it, i don't want to be healed. I just want an reason to be sad an anxious and i feel like it gives me one. I don't know what to do about this. Advice? <3
Oh man, I am so sorry that you feel this way about yourself. Self-sabotage is such a common mindset when it comes to harming ourselves, physically and/or mentally. I was stuck there for a very long time. Let me tell you, finally loving myself has been the best journey I have ever encountered.
Giving advice to someone who does not want to help themselves is like trying to climb a 50 ft wall. We may make it half way up; yet, it’s near impossible to get over it. If someone doesn’t want to get better, not even the best therapist in the world will be able to change this. In recovery, we need to be ready to get better, we need to be ready to fight.
What I can do is encourage self-acceptance and self-love. What made you want to get better from you eating disorder? Can that apply here with the self-harming? You don’t deserve to feel sad and anxious all the time, wouldn’t it be better to feel happy and content with your life?
Try digging out the family album and look for a picture of yourself as a child. Paste that innocent picture of yourself onto your mirror. Look at it and then look at yourself now. Doesn’t that little kid deserve a good life? Deserve to be happy? Only YOU can make that happen. Give that darling little child the life they always wanted to have.
Here are some articles that might be useful for you, too:
- How to Deal with Uncomfortable Feelings & Create Positive Ones
- 5 Steps to Deal with Self-Doubt and Trust Yourself Again
- Understanding Self-Harm
Also check out the Self Help page for more.. also you can email me anytime.
Good luck, love.
A few days ago I tried to kill myself, only to realise shortly afterwards how many people I do have looking out for me. I'm completely fine now, happier even. I just wish I saw your blog before I did, it could've saved me a trip to hospital. Your blog is amazing, you're doing a great thing. Thank you, from everyone who has ever struggled <3
Aw Love, I am so happy you are doing well now!
Sometimes it really does take us to hit rock-bottom to find ourselves again. I am just so grateful that you are ok. Please stay strong- and if you EVER EVER need to talk, know I am just a message away.
Thank you so much for this message!
You just made my whole day, so amazing 
hi amanda!! i just finished an ocd treatment that lasted about a year so i am definitely in recovery and i really love and appreciate your blog!! so i was wondering if you could include anything about ocd recovery?? thank you again for your beautiful and inspiring blog!!
Hi Anon! Congrats on your recovery!!
I have a friend (ocdfree.tumblr.com) whose blog you will probably love. He hasn’t updated in a couple months; however, there are still some wonderful resources on there!
Also, I will make it my top priority to post more on OCD.
Congrats again- and thank you for all the compliments 
About a month ago I wanted to feel something, refocus myself, just feel present for once. Anyway.. I repeatedly dug deeply into my skin with a pen for a few minutes. I still have one scar, but I did not leave a cut, however, a red mark did appear. It hardly hurt though, and hurting myself was not the intention. Most of these marks faded. I don't do it anymore, but is what I did considered self harm? I really don't want it to be
Self-Harm is not only cutting oneself. The exact definition is:
The deliberate non-suicidal injuring of one’s body.
The most common form of self-harm is skin-cutting but self-harm also covers a wide range of behaviors including, but not limited to, burning, scratching, banging or hitting body parts, interfering with wound healing, hair-pulling (trichotillomania) and the ingestion of toxic substances or objects, and smoking.
You said your intention was not hurting yourself but wanting to refocus. There are many other ways to focus yourself and feel in the present without having to harm yourself. A simple Google search of learning how to refocus brings up hundreds of posts and resources!
on my friend's blog she has two cute little ribbons that support what she is going through and it's linked to this blog (omg which i can't believe i am just finding!).. where i can find those so i can add onto me blog too?
Thank you so much!! 
You can find the recovery awareness ribbons: HERE
Just copy and paste the code into your description or wherever you would like in your theme! The ribbon’s backgrounds are transparent so they will match onto your blog.
that anon who talked about mental hospitals is so ignorant, its ridiculous.
Aw, I thought it was a legitimate question, especially, like I said, with the stigmas attached to certain mental health disorders.
Please try to not judge others!
I like to think of this blog as a safe-place. 
Hi umm so I have severe depression, eating disorders, and I cut. nobody knows. I was just curious if I told somebody or I decided to get help (which would never happen) would I get sent to a mental hospital? Would people classify me as crazy? Like would I be put in a room with like people who are mental?! Would they hurt me??! Would they put me in a confined room alone?!! Omg!:'(
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry but this message made me really sad. There is such a stigma attached to these disorders that it actually makes people not want to get the help they need- which is so disappointing.
One thing that is so important is to be properly diagnosed. This severe depression that you are suffering with may be the cause of the other issues you are having. Once we heal our minds than we can begin to get healthy again.
Even if you did seek help for your eating disorder- NO they would NOT classify you as “crazy”. Residential treatment programs are NOT a mental hospital. No one is “mental” there- they are suffering just as you are. But going away to a rehab center is not the only option you would have. There are programs, such as Outpatient agencies, where one can go a few times a week for a couple hours. Also, having a nutritionist can be really important for implementing healthy eating habits.
Mental hospitals are designed for people with very severe disorders, like psychotic schizophrenia, have tried to physically hurt someone, attempted suicide, or had a traumatic life event. Self-harm is NOT classified with suicide, unless one is purposely trying to kill themselves. I also hate that there is also a stigma attached to psychiatric hospitals. It’s NOT at all like the movies portray them to be. It isn’t like straight jackets and confined padded rooms. It is just a bunch of nice people with some problems they had to work out.
But asking for help would not be admitting yourself into one of these places. You deserve the help, even if you can’t see it now- sometimes we have to hit rock bottom before we can work ourselves up again. However, hitting rock-bottom is not something to strive for- if you think you need the help, getting a counselor or therapist, even just for once a week, can really help you work through the issues. Good luck, love.
I know that you can't diagnose me, but can you help me figure out if it's likely that I had an ED? For a long while I've had control issues. Everything had been taken away from me, I just wanted something in my life to be my choice, to be under MY control. I stopped eating.. just for a day. I realized how bad that choice was but dreams of losing weight followed that day for months. I've skipped meals and restricted since then on and off. I calorie count almost everything. I don't starve though.
Eating disorders are not only when someone starves themselves. Many people go on diets or overeat once in awhile. If you think that food is playing TOO big a part in your life, here are some questions to help you evaluate your behavior and pinpoint potential problems:
- I constantly think about eating, weight and body size.
- I became anxious prior to eating.
- I’m terrified of being overweight.
- I don’t know what I’m physically hungry.
- I go on eating binges and can’t stop until I feel sick.
- I often feel bloated or uncomfortable after meals.
- I spend a lot of time daydreaming of food.
- I weigh myself several times a day.
- I exercise too much or get very ridged about my exercise plan.
- I believe that being in control of food shows other people that I can control myself.
- I have taken laxatives or forced myself to purge after eating.
- I believe food controls my life.
- I feel extremely guilty after eating.
- I eat when I am nervous, anxious, lonely, or depressed.
- I don’t think I look good in my clothes.
- Because of my weight and appearance, I’m more uptight that I’d like to be around people I find attractive.
Look at your answers carefully- if you decide that your eating habits are making you sick or simply keeping you from enjoying life, it may be time to make some changes. Keep in mind, however, that the ways you use food can come from cultural heritage, psychological makeup, or years of habit. Take it slow! Changing habits is always difficult. Counselors, dietitians, nutritionists, and people with food problems that are similar to yours can give you additional emotional strength.
Please speak to a dietitian, nutritionist, or counselor in your community! In my experience, if we think we have a problem- we usually do. Here are some resources for more information:
So I have scars from self harm+ I'm using Bio oil twice a day, will my scars have faded by august, since I'm going to turkey then with family and my mum is the only one that knows+ I don't want the rest of my family finding out?xo
First of all, congrats on your recovery from self-harm!
And going to Turkey sounds like so much fun!!!
What an amazing vacation!!
It’s good that you have started preparing now for August. I am going to be honest and tell you that I have never tried to get rid of my self-harm scars but I would like to in the near future (I have had them for 8 years, ugh.)
I have heard many good things about Bio-Oil! Also, I have also heard Mederma works really well, however, it can get quite expensive. My suggestion for you would be to look up testimonials from other people and how the product has worked for their scars.
Sorry if I was not much help. If Bio Oil does work well for you my lovely anon, please let me know! 
im frwaking out i wemt to my dealers to get more meth got high and then went home. my parents found my stash andare freaking put and there are bugs crawling on me and getting into my skin. i cant focus or think straight/ too much going on. my parents want to send me to rehab. im 18 but dropped out of college cuz of drugs. idk what to do. i wamt to get these bugs off me,like i cant think/ im scared of rehab. idk what to do.
You are scared of rehab but not the “meth mites” that are crawling all over you? Seriously think about that for a second. You let this HORRIBLE drug take over your life- and now it’s taking over your mind and future.
I think that once you find recovery, you will be grateful that your parents found your stash. They know this is a big problem for you— let them help you help yourself. Meth can do serious serious serious damage to your physical and mental health. You may even need to go through detox.
My friend, please save yourself before it’s too late. Getting high is so not worth your life- you are so much more than that.. Take out the family album, look at a picture of yourself as a child- doesn’t that little kid have hope? Don’t they deserve to grow up and live a happy life?
I know it can be your best friend and worst enemy all wrapped into one.. if you don’t end this friendship, it will only put you in jail or the ground. Please take the help.
i am looking for some worksheets to help with my recovery. do you know of any ones?
Hey love!
I am not sure what you are in recovery from but I have found a great website that has worksheets about mental health, eating disorders, self harm, PTSD anxiety, and substance abuse:
http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/freedownloads2.htm
Oh yeah, and you can check out my Recovery Challenge too. It’s very generalized so anyone in recovery can participate in it!
Good luck with everything!
Hopefully this is what you were looking for! 
How did you make your Cbox look so nice?
You can find the tutorial here: cocorini.tumblr.com!
Hi! Does clicking the link of the ad more than once help more than once, or does it only work once per person? If clicking a couple of times helps you immensely and literally takes 5 seconds of my time, then I'd gladly do so!
Thank you so much for wanting to help me!!!! 
Clicking it once per visit is just fine, I think that clicking it a bunch of times in a row might get me in trouble!
You are oh so wonderful!!
Thank you again, you have no idea how much I appreciate it!
